“Has you on her mind all the time” is my Facebook status because I thought it clever and amusing. A general outpouring of flirtiness and nonsensical humor to let every one know I’m thinking of them even when I’m not. (does that make sense?)
I think we’re over the break-up hump we were in before. We being the collective we, of course. Not everyone has broken up in recent history; some people are still going strong and some people are making a commitment to keep on keeping on. (And some of us just straight need to be committed. You know who you are.)
It’s that commitment to keep on keeping on that’s on my mind. You know what I’m talking about: engagements. In my world, April is baby month, May is break-up month, and June is…well June is special. It’s wedding and engagement announcement month. My mailbox magically starting filling up with engagement announcements on the 1st and all those invites I got back in March? It’s time to start cashing in on those. If I truly wanted to, I could be at a wedding every Saturday afternoon and at an engagement party every Friday night for the entire month of June.
I’ve found the need to move out of the break-up songs phase and into the happier, much more aligned to the mood of the month songs about love. They are handy to have around while wedding planning; sometimes a girl needs a reminder that weddings are declarations of love and not these overwhelming planning events.
Seriously. There are 900 zillion choices for dresses, floral arrangements, invitations, and save the date cards. 900 zillion isn’t an exact number, but it ought to be. There is lots of “Okay, I love this one…” and “But I love this one too…” going on and there’s lots of “what do you mean I have to write vows??” There are themed weddings and cupcake vs. cake debates, and the literal tracking down of the 2 year old, only made 3 times Carolina Herrera black and white wedding gown that was vetoed by the groom over dinner. There’s this general idea that getting married is a good idea but does it have to be such a big process?
Little reminders of love. Sometimes it’s something we all need. Download them here.
Sara Said:
on June 16, 2008 at 3:40 am
Well, hello collectedmess.
I know what you mean about the June-ness–our wedding is Saturday, the same day as four people I graduated high school with, two girls from college classes, and a cousin. Awesome. However, as the day approaches I’ve started using this method:
If the question you are about to ask me can be answered with “I trust your judgment,” don’t ask me. Just do it.
If you want to offer your opinion, don’t. Just do it.
If you want to ask me to choose between two options, don’t add more choices while I’m picking. Limit my choices to no more than three; any more than that, refer to rule #1.
As a result of implementing these three simple rules, my wedding ramp-up week is surprisingly stress-free.
Hope you’ll stop by my site, and perhaps make some more mixes for us.